I had a massive parenting fail this week. Finn’s hermit crab died. He loved that critter, like make him a bowl of dinner and put him on the table with us loved him. So I sent him to the yard to bury Hermie because I was really busy making ‘egg roll in a bowl’ in my wok and couldn’t stop. His heart was broken but he did it. I was still stirring away when he went to check the grave and his chicken ran by with THE CRAB IN HER MOUTH!! She dug him up with her chicken foot. Omg, ya’ll I was dying and stirring and yelling catch the chicken. I had no idea how to make this ok so I got hysterical and started laughing. I’m not proud of any of this but I’m not going to lie, that egg roll in a bowl was so good it was like I didn’t even make it.
In other news, I spent all day talking about the UNCC shooting with my students. Some of the most poignant points of the day from the perspective of teenagers are as follows: they shouldn’t have given the killer publicity, the run/fight/hide protocol actually saved lives, Riley fought but I’m not sure I’m that brave but he didn’t know he was until that happened either, none of the duel enrolled highschool kids were on the auto alert emergency phone list (I contacted the college admin), they said the killer was smart and a good student in the press because he wasn’t black and the media is racist in how they report crimes, not all mentally ill people kill (need to frame it in different words in hope of de-stigmatizing mental disorders) and “so in so was in the class/building, etc”. It was a long day. I hope I didn’t fail.
This week, my ten year old baby, who becomes a middle school student later this month, got the game ball, marched for teachers and told me “I read it on my favorite subreddit”. My big girl is rarely seen, off to work, school, UNCC for test prep and out with friends. I knew the day would come when we were ships passing in the night. I just didn’t know the day was this week. Some of these things make me sad but neither of my kids died in a hale of heroics and gunfire so it is OK. I hope they would fight evil if it came to their door, I believe they could be heroes if they needed to be and I pray they never know if I’m right. Let them march and not fight, Lord!